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Do you think this is rude? Should I say something?

My mother-in-law and father-in-law are selling us their house in a few months. (they are building a new one). Right now it's ready to move in because everything is white, MIL never decided to paint. Well, NOW she's decided to paint. She's bought MAROON paint to paint the dining room, green for one of the bathrooms and she's painting one wall in the living room blue. I not only HATE these color choices, but they don't match any of my decor and I'll have to repaint them in just a few months. I think it's really rude (and so does my husband) but we are afraid to say anything because they are really giving us a good deal on the house..

Public Comments

1. Why would she do that? You might want to put a bug in your dads ear. He'll be more understanding.
2. I would totally say something. Not like you agreed on this AFTER she painted... rather before she did. Tell her that this does not match what you want, be honest instead of holding a grudge.
3. then you need to communicate your wishes! tell her i know your excited to paint but i would save your money for your house.. if you paint i'm going to repaint over it and really don't need the added expences i'm sure you can understand that because of the deal your giving us on the house! but if you don't say anything she will never know! i don't think she can read minds or take hints! so talk to her about it!
4. I would say that the right thing to do in this situation would be to casually and politely bring it up to her. If she gets defensive or snide, just drop it. Paint's not too incredibly expensive, and if you're really getting a good deal on the house, the price and time isn't worth a lost deal and an angry mother-in-law.
5. No, if you are buying the house it means it's sold,it's not like they are giving you the house...I'd say something like..."oh that's ok don't worry about it"...we're just going to paint it to match our decor in this room anyway...
6. Just say to her that you were planning on painting anyway so she doesn't need to do any painting she can leave it to you because you would love to do it all up and tell her you have great plans for it. She will be appreciate it hopefully and see it as a favour rather than you telling her she has bad taste. take the paint from her take it back to the shop and just swap it for a colour you like. Surely she would understand that you're not expected to like the same colours as she does and maybe include her in the little things like buying cushions or something.
7. Who cares what their motive was to painting, perhaps she thought she was being helpful but nontheless keep your mouth shut until you get possession of the house and paint asap--really not a big deal and saying something will be making a mountain out of what seems like a molehill.
8. fuck ya you need to say not only are the colors ugly as shit but it looks like the gay pride flag so you should definetly say something but dont forget the good deal
9. How about telling your mom in law how excited you are to be able to decorate your new home, thank her for what she has done and tell her not to work so hard. Then ask her if she would like to go help you pick colors for the unpainted rooms. You may get some free labor and the colors you want. Besides that you won't have to make her feel cut/left out.
10. Tell them you appreciate they want to fix the place up before selling it to you. Nevertheless, you and your husband want to have the fun of doing it yourselves. Tell them if they really want to help, they can buy the paint and supplies you'll need once you move in.
11. tell em straight up that you dont like those colors cause when you paint over them it will be even worse they will waste theri own money
12. She wants you to have the colours she has chosen for your new place. Bl**dy hell, right just tell her to please leave it white, as you'd like to pick some colours to match your furniture. But you would JUST LOVE for her to give you a hand once you've bought your chosen colours, as she's so good at decorating. Failing that, she's your husband's mum - can he talk to her?
13. Maybe she thinks she's doing a nice thing for you. I would delicately approach the subject with her and ask why she picked those colors and then start talking about your decor. If you are buying the house, you have a right to say something I would think. But say it delicately.
14. It's not rude, but it's presumptuous, overreaching and strange for her to pick the colors of your house without talking to you about it, or even observing your decor and painting according to what you already have. Please do not let her do it. Tell her exactly what you said here: The colors she chose do not match your decor and you'll have to paint over again. (And take it from someone who knows from personal experience: Maroon is a BEAST to cover up. You'll be putting coat after coat after coat of primer on just to keep that stuff from bleeding through.) Say thank you for the thought, but the white is perfect for you.
15. DON'T start a feud with your MIL! Next time you go over there, bring along a throw pillow or vase something and take them into the rooms she's painted and mention "How great will this look when we paint the walls beige" or something like that. It's not confrontational, and it shows her that even if she's trying to do something sneaky and backhanded (perhaps she doesn't really want to let go of the house?) you aren't at all bothered by it. There's no way she could call you out on that. Oh, and when you do move in, be very cheery and invite her and your FIL back to help you re-paint! If any of this has been done in spite, your calm reaction will drive her nuts. Either way, you end up on top.
16. I agree with Tucker a bug in your dad's ear is right. She might think she is doing something nice for you two. OR Does she not like you? OR Maybe she feels now she can paint it the colors she always wanted without husbands approval because the house will be gone in a few months. But like Tuck said ask your father.